Listening happens when we put in the effort to understand what it means.

Listening happens when we put in the effort to understand what it means.

Hearing happens when we’re able to recognize a sound.

Listening happens when we put in the effort to understand what it means.

It not only requires focus, but it also requires a commitment to encountering the experience, intent and emotion behind the words. And that commitment can be scary. Because if we’re exposed to that emotion and those ideas, we discover things we might be avoiding.

Seth Godin blog June 7, 2020

At this time in our history, listening to one another – really listening, is not just important; it is essential.

On both sides of the racial divide, the local church has a special and unique role to play in facilitating meaningful conversations.  I remember listening to Ray Bakke (founder of the Ray Bakke Center for Urban Transformation) many years ago, share that three institutions are ordained in society to govern, care for and give order – the family, the local church and government.  Each is strategically positioned to facilitate difficult conversations.  However, if the local church is left out of this strategy, the vision for reconciliation will never be achieved.  Why?  Because reconciliation is a spiritual issue!  No other institution in society is designed to address the spiritual issues of sin, repentance and forgiveness.

How can we as church leaders facilitate conversations around the gospel to bring light to the darkness?

A current member of our Leadership Collective – Brian Wilson, Lead Pastor of Access Church in Menifee, CA recently interviewed a panel of guests to allow his congregation to listen, truly listen to the issues that divide people based upon the color of their skin.  My prayer is that these exchanges help educate people on both sides of the racial divide.

Watch Part I of a two part series of this informative interview – CLICK HERE.

Questions for your reflection:

  1. How can our congregation be part of the solution?
  2. Who can we partner with to demonstrate and practice racial reconciliation?
  3. What can we do to sustain the process of racial reconciliation so that it is not perceived as an event?
Learn from Google’s head of coaching

Learn from Google’s head of coaching

You are probably like me.  I don’t need another webinar – on anything!  But if you are serious about improving your coaching effectiveness I think it would be worth checking this one out because of the presenters AND it is FREE.

Thousands of professional coaches are already registered for the complimentary Foundations of Great Coaching: Start Fast Masterclass with Google’s David Peterson and ICF’s David Goldsmith. This live 90-minute masterclass is setting records in the coaching community. Join your peers and be a part of this rare event – register now to guarantee your spot.

Secure your seat for the masterclass here

This is your chance to learn live from two of the industry’s greatest thought leaders. David and David are passionate about helping good coaches like you develop masterful skills to handle difficult and emerging client challenges.

In this complimentary masterclass, you’ll learn how to:

  • Position yourself powerfully to stand out as a corporate coach
  • Stay on the leading edge of coaching to future-proof your practice
  • Get to the heart of client challenges in less time
  • Use speed in engagements to build trust and rapport

If you’re ready to accelerate your coaching from good to GREAT, join me at this session.

Register for the Foundations of Great Coaching: Start Fast Masterclass here

Learn live from Google’s Coach and the ICF Co-Founder

Learn live from Google’s Coach and the ICF Co-Founder

Are you looking for a way to accelerate your path to becoming a GREAT coach? A way to learn secrets master coaches wish they knew when they first started, without taking decades to get there?

This month, Google’s David Peterson and ICF Co-founder David Goldsmith will host a complimentary masterclass called Foundations of Great Coaching: Start Fast and I’d love you to be my guest.

In this live masterclass, David & David will show you how to get to the heart of client challenges in less time. You’ll discover how to focus on their most urgent needs first, build rapport faster, and position yourself powerfully as a leadership coach.

This masterclass will profoundly impact the way you coach!

Register for Foundations of Great Coaching: Start Fast Masterclass CLICK HERE

If you’re interested, I recommend that you sign up on the Wait List so that you can block-out the time on your schedule as soon as the information is available.

Feel free to share your thoughts with me on this session! Looking forward to hearing from you.


Gary Reinecke

Evaluate Your Small Group with these Three Questions

Evaluate Your Small Group with these Three Questions

People learn to discover and follow Jesus in community.  Few environments do that better than a small group.  This begs the question, what did Jesus model for His disciples.

Small Groups do these two things with Excelllence:

  1. Care for People
  2. Develop People

Caring for people is with the whole person in mind.

What does excellent “pastoral care” look like?

In the small group I lead with my wife, Gina, we have established a “care-net” for the members of our group.  What does that mean:

  • when a person has a need, members are quick to respond
  • when a person misses a small group event, they receive a call
  • when a person shares a challenge they are facing, we pray

The list goes on; but you get the idea.

Three reflection questions to strengthen the “care-net” in your small group:

  1. What needs are we currently meeting in our small group?
  2. What other needs should we be more aware of at this time?
  3. How can we meet this new need and expand our “care-net”?

Next time I’ll discuss the second item on the list above: “Develop People”.

What mountain biking can teach you about coaching

What mountain biking can teach you about coaching

When Gina and I were married 25+ years ago we discussed and subsequently, researched a new hobby that we would like to learn together. The hobby we chose was mountain biking. We asked a friend what we needed; we bought two bikes, helmets, gloves and gear. Little by little we learned some of the finer points of our new hobby.  We even bought a book and trained early in the morning to beat the heat in Phoenix to practice our skills.

25+ years later we are still learning new techniques that help us raise our riding skills.

About a month ago I was given a mountain bike magazine from Great Britain. In it was an article that caught my attention. It reminded readers of techniques for riding aggressive downhill trails. The tendency when going down a steep decline is to lean back. In contrast, the best way to ride an aggressive downhill trail is to stay on your seat, lean forward and bend your arms.

These tips have helped me immensely!

Take that same approach to coaching. If you have gone through a basic coach training course you undoubtedly know the importance of listening and asking questions. One thing I’ve discovered is that many leaders simply forget. I would like to remind you of the basics again. Read THIS BLOG as a refresher to the Five Shifts of a Great Coach.

Going back, reviewing the basics can make a BIG difference.



I have realised the power of an accurate assessment, plus a qualified coach, to help leaders succeed.

Recently I took a group of leaders through an assessment on their leadership effectiveness.  it required some time on their part to administer the assessment, minimal cost and honest reflection as they responded to the questions.  Each person became more self-aware than they were before and it gave the supervisor/coach an opportunity to de-brief their initial observations – at a minimum.  For the leader who is serious about her/his development they are in a much better position to learn and grow.  For the intrinsically motivated leader, the data from the assessment served as a catalyst to change and grow their leadership.

A simple self assessment like the one I will share below can propel people on a developmental path that could have short-term and long-term implications for the leader.

This assessment is NOT in-depth.  It is not the assessment I mentioned at the start of this blog.  It contains 8 questions to rate yourself on 8 essential traits of effective leaders.  It does not cost anything financially.

It does however, give you a baseline measure.  It does generate a report that will be e-mailed to help you, to help you move forward in your development OR to work with th members of your team.  It does serve as a means to open the conversation with leaders.

Please CLICK HERE to access the Develop the Leaders Around You survey.