Coaching

Purpose

Discover ways to live, disciple and lead missionally.

Strategic Question

Who is going to support you?

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What is coaching?

Coaching in one word = EMPOWERMENT.

One leader compared coaching to “Coming Alongside and Drawing Out” vs. mentoring as “Going Before and Pouring In!” (Tom Wymore)

We live in an age of self-discovery. Jesus lived in a similar era. He knew when it was time to be the expert. And when he needed to coach people by listening and asking powerful questions so that people could:

  • discover for themselves who He was
  • discover who they were in relationship to Him (be) and
  • discover how they were designed to lead like Him (do).

Another way of distinguishing coaching from other ways of working with people is a “relationship with a purpose”. (Bob Logan)

A helpful working definition of Coaching is a relational process to help the new disciple or leader discern the plan of the Holy Spirit in some part of their personal or ministry development; and ways to cooperate with Him.

How Does a Coaching Relationship Work?

Coach Agreement – a strong start to a coach relationship begins with a discussion to clarify expectations and includes some of the following:

  • Objectives – What do you want to accomplish in a coach relationship?
  • Measures – How will you know when you have achieved your objective?
  • Gains – What do you want the impact to be for you and your organization?
  • Logistics
    • What is the duration of the coaching relationship?
    • What is the frequency of appointments?
    • How long is each appointment?
    • What is your preference when meeting (in person, web-conference call, phone)?
    • What costs are involved?
    • Use an online coaching tool to prepare for coaching appointments, enter notes and track action plans.
    • Evaluate at the mid-way point and conclusion of a coaching relationship.
  • Agenda Harmony – each appointment has a specific agenda that the leader co-creates with the coach. I use an online coaching tool to navigate the important aspects of the conversation:
    • Key issues identified
    • Vision clarified
    • Actions brainstormed
    • Plan set
    • Accountability established: InFocus Coaching Tool 
What are the benefits of coaching?

Empowerment

The things you discover on your own, you are more likely to act on. That is why I work hard to listen carefully and ask questions that lead to new insights. With a keen awareness of the priorities, actions needed and the work required – you will be motivated to act. Leaders grow at a much greater rate when I facilitate the process of self-discovery vs. telling people what they need to do as the “expert”.

Support

A simple equation for leader effectiveness is a Relevant Vision + Strategic Effort + Relational Support = Maximum Impact. This is one reason why people need a coach. If people could consistently reach their potential without the support of another person in life, they would!

Focus

I want to help you leverage your time, talents and treasures for Kingdom advancement – to that end, I help you clarify the most important thing to focus on for a season. I like what Covey described as important but not urgent activities. The most fruitful coaching conversations are focused on Quadrant II activity.

How is coaching with Gary different?

Principled based

  • Universal principles are fundamental to my process vs. a particular model of ministry that leaders are forced to embrace. I rely on tried and true principles that operate across cultures, languages and a variety of contexts.
  • While coaching a lead pastor to disciple people outside his church, he realized that most of the congregation’s energy was focused on people who were already Christ followers. This revelation sent him on a different journey to see people far from God come into relationship with Him. I like to help leaders discover, adapt and implement those strategies that impact lives for the Kingdom!

Need-driven

  • Driven by the need of the moment with an eye on the BIG picture. When we initiate a coaching relationship I ask you to clarify what you want to achieve and as long as we remain focused on that agenda, then the relationship will fulfill its intended purpose.
  • I coached a leader for over a decade to catalyze a movement of reproducing disciples, leaders and churches. Every appointment we focused on a different aspect of that vision and now 15+ years later that vision is becoming a reality. My job is to do everything in my ability as a coach to help you achieve your vision.

Processed oriented

  • Formulas work well in a sterile laboratory. However, the complexities of life and ministry oftentimes interfere with the best laid plans.
  • I remember a church planter that I coached many years ago who had a number of “wins”, resulting in a growing church. Then, almost out of the blue, several poor decisions stalled the ministry. What looked promising on paper did not materialize and he was forced to do a re-set.
What resources/tools do you use?

Sorting through the Noise!

There is no shortage of training & resources today. Domestically and internationally, opportunities abound with the connectivity that technology & travel provide; there is no reason why emerging leaders or seasoned veterans should not receive the help they need.

I’m constantly asking the question – how can I help others become more effective leaders so that we can develop more and better disciples, leaders & churches?  In that quest to refine and improve I’ve found certain resources that deliver the results that make a difference.

Following are some or the resources that are uniquely suited for a coaching relationship and consistent with the distinct approach I take.

How are coaching resources different?

Books, seminars, webinars, conferences and educational programs are content heavy. I like the idea of attending a conference or reading a book and then having the opportunity to de-brief the information with another person or group. That allows the information to be unpacked in a relevant and relational manner. By themselves these are all wonderful resources but they are different from “coaching” resources in significant ways:

  • Coaching resources are weighted heavily on the implementation of actions to be taken.
  • Coaching resources provide a framework, strategic information and questions for reflection.
  • Coaching resources are developed with a leader in mind who is being coached individually or in a team.
  • Coaching resources are developed by experts for leaders that need someone to facilitate the self-discovery process, not a consultant.
  • Coaching resources are reproducible so that other coaches can use them with some training.

Leadership Multiplication Pathway

What are the End Results?

This can be answered in three ways. At the outset of the coach relationship I co-create a coaching agreement with the leader. I ask the leader respond to three questions:

  • Objectives – What do you want to accomplish in a coach relationship?
  • Measures – How will you know when you have achieved your objective?
  • GainsWhat do you want the impact to be for you and your organization? 

If we meet or surpass these expectations then we are successful.

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