Would you describe your preferences to be in the first list or the second list?
- Attuned to the external environment.
- Prefer communicating by talking.
- Learn best through doing or discussing.
- The breadth of interests.
- Tend to speak first and reflect later.
- Sociable and expressive.
- Take initiative in work and relationships.
- Drawn to the inner world of thoughts and ideas.
- Prefer to communicate by writing.
- Learn best by reflection or “mental practice.”
- The depth of interest.
- Tend to reflect before acting or speaking.
- Private and contained.
- Focus readily.
If it’s the second list you are an introvert and may seek to coach others in the expectation that the people you are coaching have similar preferences to these. However, as much as half of the population has preferences in the first list and it is, therefore, wise to better understand these in order to improve our overall coaching effectiveness.
This booklet initially provides answers to 2 questions:
- What is an extrovert? and
- How does an extrovert generally relate to the world?
The booklet then goes on to offer some advice on how to coach extroverts as a result of this better appreciation. This action-oriented resource, therefore, presents lots of information about what it takes to coach a person who has the opposite preferences to you as a coach. Apart from presenting information, it also asks practical action questions of you and provides space for reflection, i.e., to write out thoughts and plans for yourself as you apply many of the ideas and skills that are presented.
There is a parallel booklet to this one, Coaching Introverts, which would be more suitable for Coaches who are Extraverts themselves. It similarly explores the issues of coaching someone with an opposite preference as you but comes at it from the perspective of an Extravert.
Author: Jon Warner