7 Nuances to Transform Your Discipleship Culture

7 Nuances to Transform Your Discipleship Culture

Discipleship: Beyond Assimilation, Beyond Boring

Want vibrant faith journeys, not just pew-fillers? Ditch the “join the club” mentality. Begin with the end: are you raising disciples, or filling seats? Distinguish: assimilation welcomes, discipleship equips. Monitor progress – are hearts growing, lives changing? Spice it up! Make it fun, adventurous, messy. Keep it simple, focused, real. Less is more, quality over quantity. And finally, make it reproducible: empower others to disciple, creating a chain reaction of faith. Remember, it’s not about numbers, it’s about igniting souls!

7 Nuances to Transform Your Discipleship Culture: From Assimilation to Thriving Growth

Discipleship. It’s a word that gets thrown around a lot, but how often do we truly understand its depth and power? Building a thriving culture of discipleship isn’t about simply checking boxes or churning out cookie-cutter followers. It’s about cultivating a space where individuals grow into their full potential, empowered by faith and equipped to make a difference in the world.

Here are 7 nuances to guide you in transforming your discipleship culture from assimilation to a dynamic, life-changing journey:

1. Begin with the End in Mind:

Before building, you need blueprints. Define what a “disciple” looks like. Are they individuals who embody specific values? Do they actively engage in their communities? Having a clear vision of your destination helps you navigate the path and tailor your approach.

Key Question: How do you measure the fruitfulness of a disciple of Jesus? 

2. Distinguish Between Assimilation & Discipleship:

Assimilation is about making people fit into a mold, while discipleship is about helping them discover and develop their unique gifts and calling. Don’t focus on conformity; nurture authenticity and encourage personal growth within the context of shared values.

Key Question: Are your people simply being assimilated into the congregation or are they growing closer to Jesus, cultivating their character and reproducing other disciples?

3. Monitor Progress:

Growth doesn’t happen by accident. Implement systems to track progress and provide personalized feedback. This could involve goal setting, mentorship, or even simple check-ins to see how individuals are applying their learnings. Coaching keeps motivation high and identifies areas where support is needed.

Key Question: How does your ministry monitor progress in the disciples you are making?

4. Make Discipleship Fun and Adventurous:

Let’s face it, traditional Bible study can feel stale at times. Inject a sense of excitement into your discipleship journey. Organize mission trips, retreats, or even service projects that allow people to put their faith into action in engaging ways. Remember, learning is best when it’s also fun!

Key Question: How dynamic is your discipleship pathway?

5. Keep it Simple:

Don’t overwhelm people with complex theological jargon or a never-ending list of requirements. Break down complex concepts into digestible chunks and focus on the core principles of your faith. Remember, less is often more when it comes to laying a strong foundation.

Key Question: Can you draw your discipleship process on a napkin and explain to a brand new disciple in 3-5 minutes?

6. Less is More:

Quality trumps quantity. Is it better to have a small group of deeply committed disciples than a large group of passive participants? Foster meaningful relationships within your group, providing opportunities for genuine connection and support.

Key Question: What are the essential components to foster a culture of discipleship in your congregations, gatherings, and groups?

7. Make it Reproducible:

A strong discipleship culture isn’t sustainable if it relies solely on charismatic leaders or specific programs. Design systems and frameworks that anyone can pick up and run with. Train and empower individuals to become mentors and guides themselves, ensuring your culture thrives even beyond the initial spark.

Key Question: If you step out of the discipleship “system” will it continue on it’s own?

Remember, building a thriving discipleship culture is a journey, not a destination. By incorporating these nuances, you can create an environment where individuals are challenged, inspired, and empowered to grow into their full potential as Jesus followers. So, let’s ditch the assimilation assembly line and embark on a journey of genuine transformation, together.

Resources to cultivate disciples, that make disciples:

Make Obedient Disciples
(of already disciples)

Make Disciples
(of new-yet disciples)

Ready to take action?

  • Find your starting point: Take the FREE Discipleship Quiz and discover your strengths and weaknesses as a disciplemaker.

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Connecting with Not-Yet Followers of Jesus

Connecting with Not-Yet Followers of Jesus

Imagine you are preparing to go fishing. What are the things you need in order to be prepared?

  • Gear
  • Tackle
  • Bait

Now consider you are fishing for not-yet followers of Jesus. What do you need to be aware of (think attitudes to adopt and contextual factors to consider)?

  • Spiritual readiness
  • Posture of curiosity
  • Mindfulness
  • Authenticity
  • Compassion

As I’ve shared in the past, Gina and I are serving and participating in a new church plant (The Refinery Church) that has a vision to reproduce churches so that people far from God can discover Jesus in non-judgemental, safe environments. Here is a quick guide for preparing and being ready to connect with not-yet followers of Jesus. 

Spiritual readiness

Let the Holy Spirit guide you: Ultimately, it’s not your job to convert people. Pray for the Holy Spirit to work in their hearts and open them up to the message of Jesus.

Posture of curiosity

Respect their beliefs (or lack thereof): People have a wide range of beliefs, and some may not be interested in religion at all. Approach conversations with an open mind and a willingness to listen to their perspective.


Focus on common ground: Look for areas of shared values, like compassion, kindness, or a desire for a better world. This can build a foundation for further conversation.

Avoid being pushy: People are more likely to be turned off if they feel pressured to accept your beliefs. Focus on sharing your faith in a loving and respectful way.


Live your faith: Your actions and the way you treat others are often the most powerful testimony of your faith. People are more likely to be receptive to your message if they see the positive impact your faith has on your life.

Be articulate but avoid jargon: Explain your faith in a way that is easy to understand, avoiding complex theological terms or church slang.

Answer questions honestly: Be prepared to answer questions about your faith in a clear and truthful way. If you don’t know the answer, it’s okay to say so.


Empathy vs. being right: I was reminded of this recently when I was discussing faith issues with a person from another belief system. It was difficult, but I tried my best to practice empathy when discussing her beliefs rather than argue my theology. I have a long way to go, but I am continuing to learn to put myself in the other person’s shoes when viewing issues of faith.

Who do you know that you could invite into a conversation about faith? Or, who do you know that is connecting with not-yet believers of Jesus?

Ready to take action?

  • Find your starting point: Take the FREE Discipleship Quiz and discover your strengths and weaknesses as a disciplemaker.

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Building and Supporting a Network of Excellent Coaches

Building and Supporting a Network of Excellent Coaches

One of the most strategic tools a pastor can learn to empower other leaders is coaching.

When your need for more coaches outgrows your capacity, going from one to many coaches, the common step is for a standardized coach training process to be instituted so that all the leaders who use a coach approach, regardless of their previous training and experience, now use a uniform process and practice the skills to standardize the coaching the congregation or network provides.  This fills a felt-need of quality control for the network and for the “clients” (pastors, church planters, leaders) they serve.

But standardizing coaching practices is only the first step. To see your coach network flourish, you need quality control and ongoing investment in the development of your coaches. 

Common Coach Qualifications

Early in the network the qualifications might be a church planter who had a reasonable level of success, or a pastor who seemed to have good people skills, or a formally trained Christian counselor.  These experiences are certainly helpful but do not predict coaching success.  

What is predictable is that the leader, coached by leaders with a wide range of competency, will have varying levels of success, all other things being equal (similar assessments, resources, mentoring, and training).  

Competent and consistent coaching is the “x” factor that will have the greatest level of   without reliable and valid assessment and development.

When you lack a reliable pathway to assess a leader’s coach competency it is very difficult to know where to focus on the coach’s development.

Five challenges networks face who do not assess and develop their coaches:

  1. Mixed Results – a pastor, church planter, or ministry leaders coached by a coach that has never been formally assessed have a 50-50 chance that the coach will maximize the leader’s potential.
  2. Intuition can be misleading – most coaches with a compulsory level of coach training rely on intuition to determine how they need to grow.
  3. Unreliable feedback – it is important to ask clients for feedback but if that is the primary means for assessment, it is limited.
  4. Developmental pathway – a repeatable development pathway is super important so coaches in the network have a predictable process they follow so that they are always striving to get better and better. 
  5. Guide to walk alongside – coaches need guides or mentors to help them sharpen their skill.

Even if you are a solo pastor who is launching or about to launch a leadership training process in your congregation – you will face these same issues.  But in a team or network, the problem increases in complexity proportionate to the number of coaches involved.  So what are some ways to address the problem?

Five ways to assess and develop leaders beyond initial coach training:

  1. Familiarize yourself with the 5 most common ways leaders develop their coaching – CLICK HERE.
  2. Observation and feedback from a competent coach (live or recorded).
  3. Create a development path – if you are interested in learning more about a 7-step process called the Journey of Ongoing Growth, read Christian Coaching Excellence (Part 1).
  4. Take a  reliable, valid assessment like the 360-degree Christian Coach Assessment.
  5. Find an experienced, competent coach mentor.

Where to begin?

A quick start to upgrade from average coaching is to implement three extremely important tools. The first is a Coach Agreement (think contract or covenant).  The second is a Coaching Log (think journal for note taking).  The third is a Coaching Journal to record your own observations and actions you will take to grow your coaching process (think work-out booklet).  These three things are very practical, and simple things you can do now.  It will benefit the church planters or pastors or business leaders you are coaching.

Coach Agreement 

A Coach Agreement helps to clarify expectations for the relationship.  This will increase your effectiveness to coach your clients by as much as 80%.  When you begin with the end in mind, you are more likely to reach and surpass your client’s goals. To get you started, we have a free downloadable version HERE.

Coaching Log

A Coaching Log serves two purposes.  It gives you and your client a way to look back and forward.  You can capture notes during a session AND log actions to move into the future.  For a free downloadable version, click HERE.  There are also many web-based tools that you can find on the internet with the added feature of having a shared space to send clients preparation questions to respond to in advance of appointments. I’ve seen coaches adapt MyRevCoach, Notion, Todoist, and Trello to work as a Coaching Log.

Coaching Journal 

A Coaching Journal allows you to record your observations, reflections, resources, actions, and powerful questions to grow your coaching skills. Taking a few minutes between coaching sessions or at the end of the day to reflect on what worked well and what can work better raises your self-awareness and gives you the ability to find patterns that need to be changed. You can download a simple Coaching Journal format for free HERE.  One thing I am doing currently is going through a self-led coaching supervision course that will equip me to provide more targeted feedback for coaches.  A bi-product is that I am becoming more aware of the nuances that I need to pay attention to in my coaching.

This blogpost was first published at Christian Coaching Tools – April 18, 2024

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Recruit, Assess and Support Volunteer Team Members Who Thrive

Recruit, Assess and Support Volunteer Team Members Who Thrive

The greatest asset to ministry teams is volunteers – and the greatest weakness is a church that doesn’t have a pulse on their volunteer teams. Proactively assessing volunteer teams and individual volunteers can build and maintain healthy relationships, prevent burnout, and create synergy for the mission. 

Assess – 80% of the problem starts here:

When you take the time to determine what your real needs are in a ministry it will provide clarity and confidence when you begin the recruiting process. Assessment is an important exercise before your recruitment begins.  Assessment answers the question, “Why do I need this particular role filled?”

  • Clarify for yourself why it is important to fill the role before asking anyone to join.
  • If your “why” is unclear your “what” lacks sharpness
  • Identify the Key Result Areas you want this role to fulfill

Best Practice:

Consult with others who have already done what you aspire to do.

  1. Who do you know that has already filled a role like you are attempting to fill?
  2. What did they do?
  3. What else can you learn from their experience?

Recruit – personalize the invitation to serve:

A general announcement from the stage will generate a certain level of interest from the crowd. Contrast that with a conversation over a cup of coffee to learn the person’s vision for their life, goals, and passions.  In that context, share what you see in the person and what they would bring to the role. Explain the responsibilities, the support that you or someone else will provide, and then ask them what you want them to consider. Give them a week to pray about the opportunity and then follow up.

  • Know what you are looking for in the person you are engaging
  • Understand the type of person that will be a good fit
  • Personally invite people into the role

Best Practice:

Use assessments to assess various aspects of a person’s attributes, such as:

  • Spiritual Gift 
  • Behavioral Style
  • Strengths
  • Interests
  • Team Values

One of my go-to assessments for this information is the GripBirkman. You can assess the 5 areas above individually or combined (in one assessment).  

  • CLICK HERE for more information.  
  • CLICK HERE if you would like to take the assessment along with a 1-hour debrief.

Support – be intentional about providing support.

The challenge for recruiting and retaining volunteers is to find ways to support them so that they do not become weary. A regular rhythm of meeting as a team, individual check-ins, and fun team-building activities is so, so important to building a healthy team culture.   

  • Keep a pulse on the level of engagement and fulfillment they are experiencing in their role about every 6-12 months to avoid burn-out!
  • Informally ask team members how they are doing. Use these conversations to get a sense of how they are engaging in the role you’ve asked them to fill. If you are not their direct supervisor, ask their team lead to check-in periodically. This will help to avoid team members from stagnating in their role.
  • This is the biggest reason volunteers claim, “I am too busy.”

Best Practice:

Team Huddles are a great environment to reinforce team culture by reviewing your ministry values. For instance, Gina and I are part of a new church plant and every Sunday about 30 volunteers help make the experience warm, inviting and fun. After setup and before the first service preparation gets going, we meet together for about 15-20 minutes to gather all the volunteers together for Leadership Community to remind people of our “why”. The Huddle is sort of the head of the spear for all of our Sunday morning volunteers. We lead the Welcome Team and hold a more personal, scaled down version with our team to share the following:

  • What’s on your mind this morning?
  • How can we pray for you? 

Then we close our time in prayer for each other with full participation by each member. One-sentence prayers are an easy and comfortable onramp for our people to exercise that muscle. Then we go off to our various assignments!

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Three Principles to Ensure Church Staff Thrive – Principle #1: Clarity

Three Principles to Ensure Church Staff Thrive – Principle #1: Clarity

The #1 reason why staff suffer unnecessarily – lack clarity about their job.  

I learned this early in ministry. When I met with a prospective ministry team leader I needed to be clear on what I was asking them to do. The more clarity I had the easier the conversation. If what I was asking of them was not clear in my own head, then I had a difficult time communicating what I needed. 

For instance, in approaching a conversation to engage a prospective ministry team leader, I found that I needed to have the job written out so that I understood what I was asking the person to do and what I would be providing them. With this document in hand, I felt this both respected the person AND forced me to think this through carefully to the degree I felt confident. 

Clarify Expectations

  1. Clarify expectations in a job description.
  2. Include Key Result Areas (KRAs)
  3. Make the outcomes measurable
  4. Provide regular coaching
  5. Make course corrections

Most job descriptions read more like “suggestions for employee consideration”, lacking precision and “teeth”.  

I have reviewed close to 100 job descriptions over the last 5 years to conduct assessments on pastors and  para-church leaders. Out of that pool, I found very few had a job description with the precision necessary to have a productive conversation between employer and employee.

What to do when staff lose focus?

The primary thing lacking in job descriptions is clarity.  Enough clarity so that you could, if necessary, record the actual behaviors and outcomes you envision to successfully fulfill the role. Then, write that out. Once you have that out of your brain and in writing, meet with your staff member and unpack your expectations until they are crystal clear on what you want from them.

Principle #2 – SUITABILITY

The #2 reason why staff suffer unnecessarily – poor hiring practices.  

What do you think it costs you and your ministry for a bad hire?  

It is estimated that it could cost you up to five times a bad hire’s annual salary” (SHRM Study).

This is on you, the employer. There are best practices to vet prospective employees to determine suitability, and there is a difference between eligibility (what most interviewing processes vet) and suitability. If you want to read about the differences between those two – CLICK HERE.

What to do when you are getting mixed results from your hiring process?

There are numerous tools in the ministry marketplace to determine team fit, personality, temperament. spiritual gifting, and behavioral style. But one that assesses suitability, called the Harrison, includes a Reliability Score that determines if the person being assessed is being truthful, self-aware, and paying attention as they take the assessment. You can read more about the Harrison assessment – CLICK HERE.

Principle #3 – SUPPORT

The #3 reason why staff suffer unnecessarily – lack of support.  

At some point most staff will hit a wall in their work due to personal or professional reasons. They may be going through strife in their marriage or lack skills affecting their job performance. Realistically, most staff will benefit from a regular rhythm of 1-1 coaching. The rhythm will vary from staff member to staff member, but in my experience, 28 days should not pass before you have a 1-1 scheduled with your team member. Why 28 days?

I borrowed this from Rick Warren, who said that about every 28 days he needed to remind the church community gathered at Saddleback Community Church of the vision. I extracted from that a principle in coaching: about every 28 days, staff members need to be reminded of their vision and have a clarifying conversation about how they are progressing towards the ministry outcomes they were chasing. Your rhythm, given the needs of the staff member, will vary.

Chances are the busyness of ministry trumps team meetings and 1-1s.  “Meetings” get a bad reputation: “meeting for the sake of meeting”, “waste of time”, “lack focus and purpose” – are just some of the criticisms shared by many church staff members. Many are justified!  

What can you do to break the cycle of poorly executed team meetings and one-to-ones?

  • Commit
  • Communicate expectations including:
    • Purpose
    • Frequency
    • Agenda
  • Do it!

There are platforms that support effective team meetings and 1-1s. Some clients use the LEADR platform with impressive results. Whatever you choose, use it consistently and help your staff engage in the process. Persistence is the key.

Checkout these coaching resources to support your staff members:

Goals & Objectives Skill Builder

Goal Setting Storyboard

Goal Setting Effectiveness Profile

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Unleash the Disciplemaker Within: 5 Habits to Spark a Movement

Unleash the Disciplemaker Within: 5 Habits to Spark a Movement

Have you ever felt the fire of faith ignite within you, but struggled to ignite it in others? You’re not alone. Many passionate believers yearn to create disciple-making movements, but lack the essential tools.

The truth is, disciples are made, not born. It’s a journey, and equipping yourself is crucial. But where do you even begin? How do you grow as a disciplemaker?

This is exactly what I wrestled with. The journey began a few years ago and continues. Currently, I am leading a group with my wife in a new church plant.  We discovered a powerful framework called 3-Thirds (Looking Back, Looking Up, Looking Forward) used worldwide to ignite disciple-making movements.  What makes the group powerful is that this approach is simple, coach-driven, and replicable, making it perfect for multiplying passionate disciplemakers like yourself. We did not create it. And, if you are interested in learning more about 3-Thirds Groups: CLICK HERE.  

But what about the disciplemaker themselves? What support do they need to thrive?

Here’s the exciting part: I identified 5 key habits that form the foundation of a sustainable disciple-making movement:

  1. Missional Values: Live a life that reflects your purpose as a Jesus follower.
  2. Active Prayer: Fuel your journey with constant communication with God.
  3. Relational Connections: Build deep, meaningful relationships with people far from God.
  4. Disciple-making Cycle: Master the process of equipping others to follow Christ.
  5. Strategic Partnership: Find allies who share your vision and multiply your impact.

Ready to take action?

  • Find your starting point: Take the FREE Discipleship Quiz and discover your strengths and weaknesses as a disciplemaker.
  • Fuel your growth: Join the Discipleship Collective and receive ongoing support while mastering the 5 habits.

Bonus Revelation: Our 3-Thirds Group experience highlighted a crucial element – listening to the Holy Spirit. New believers crave this guidance, and incorporating it accelerates the newest disciple’s growth.

Want to learn more?

  • Get details on the 5 habits and the Discipleship Quiz (it’s FREE!)
  • Explore the 3-Thirds framework
  • Reach out and share your own experiences (greinecke@infocusnet.org)

Don’t wait any longer. Unleash the disciplemaker within and start your journey today!

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Unleash Your Coaching Potential: The Abiding in Christ Advantage

Unleash Your Coaching Potential: The Abiding in Christ Advantage

The Challenge: A Coach’s Awakening

For over a decade, I excelled as a Christian coach, consistently receiving high marks in all areas except one: Abiding in Christ. This low score wasn’t just disappointing; it haunted me.  As someone passionate about empowering others and leaving a lasting legacy of faith, I craved to understand why this core competency felt out of reach.

The Spark: Igniting a Deeper Connection

Driven by my desire to be the best coach possible, I embarked on a three-year journey of personal growth. This wasn’t about chasing perfection, but about deepening my connection with Christ, the very foundation upon which I coach. This pursuit ignited a passion within me, not just for my own growth, but to help others cultivate a thriving relationship with God.

The Gift: Empowering Others on Their Journey

The result? A transformative quiz designed specifically for Christian coaches to assess and strengthen their “Abiding in Christ” competency. This quiz equips coaches with five key areas for self-reflection: Discernment, Questions, Clarification, Action, and Listening. These elements are the building blocks for fostering a deeper connection with the Holy Spirit, both in themselves and in those they coach.

The Call to Action: Your Journey Begins Now!

This quiz isn’t just about identifying weaknesses, it’s about taking practical steps towards growth.  It’s about igniting a fire within yourself and those you coach. Click Here to take the FREE Coach Quiz and embark on your own transformative journey of Abiding in Christ!

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Lead Like Jesus

Lead Like Jesus

This blog aims to serve as a resource for leaders to use and guide their faith community through this meaningful season.

Lent offers a crucial opportunity to deepen the spiritual journeys of your faith community and cultivate a vibrant sense of curiosity for not-yet-followers of Jesus and followers of Jesus alike. However, sustaining engagement throughout Lent can present challenges. This coaching guide draws upon principles from Christian Coaching Essentials to empower you in leading your community through a meaningful Lenten experience.

A Defining Moment

As you guide your faith community through Lent, this season presents a powerful opportunity for contemplation and deeper understanding. Today, I want to share some reflections on this poignant moment, not only as a spiritual event, but also as a lens through which we can examine your own leadership, your ministry, and your community.

The Duality of Hosanna:

Luke 19:28-44 highlights the fascinating duality of the word “Hosanna.” On the surface, it’s a joyous cry of praise. But its Aramaic root, “Oshana,” reveals a deeper meaning: a desperate plea for salvation. This hidden layer adds complexity to the scene on Palm Sunday. The crowds weren’t just celebrating a triumphant leader; they were also yearning for deliverance, perhaps from Roman rule or their own struggles.

Jesus’ Knowing Sacrifice:

The passage emphasizes that Jesus understood the true cost of his upcoming sacrifice. He knew the celebratory cheers would soon turn to cries for his crucifixion. Yet, his love for humanity compelled him to persevere. This adds a layer of poignancy to his journey into Jerusalem.

The Invitation to Self-Reflection:

The account confronts us with our own human flaws. We are reminded that we, like the Jerusalem crowd, are capable of both praising Jesus and contributing to his suffering through our sins. This introspection can be a powerful call to humility and repentance.

Spiritual Disciplines for Growth:

The passage goes beyond simply conveying the story. It offers practical ways to deepen your faith during Holy Week and beyond. It introduces the concept of “spiritual disciplines,” practices that can strengthen your connection to God. Examples include:

  • Bible Reading and Study: Regularly engaging with scripture allows you to learn from God’s word and receive guidance.
  • Worship: Expressing praise and adoration to God through singing, prayer, or simply reflecting on his majesty.
  • Prayer: Building a two-way conversation with God, sharing your joys, struggles, and petitions.
  • Service: Putting your faith into action by helping others in need.
  • Fasting: Abstain in some significant way from food and possibly from drink as well. 

Reflection as a Tool for Growth:

The passage concludes with questions for reflection. Taking time to ponder these questions can be a powerful tool for personal growth:

  • How has your understanding of Jesus’ sacrifice evolved over time?
  • What aspects of the Holy Week story resonate most with you this year?
  • How can you use the coming week to draw closer to God?
  • Which spiritual disciplines feel most appealing to explore?

By reflecting on these points, you can personalize your Lenten experience and deepen your connection to the message of sacrifice and salvation.

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Have You Ever Felt Like You’re Sliding Backwards?

Have You Ever Felt Like You’re Sliding Backwards?

This week, as we reflect on the Stations of the Cross, let’s look at the image of Jesus falling for the second time. Even with help from Simon and the tenderness of Veronica, Jesus stumbles. This isn’t the first obstacle – he’s been beaten, mocked, and forced to carry the weight of the world. But this second fall feels different. It’s a moment of utter exhaustion, a crushing weight that threatens to keep him down.

Can you relate? We all face challenges. We get knocked down, dust ourselves off, and keep going. But then life throws a curveball – the death of a loved one, a job loss, a broken relationship. These aren’t just bumps in the road; they’re like trudging up a slippery hill, feeling like you’re constantly sliding backwards.

But here’s the truth: Jesus gets it. His second fall isn’t weakness; it’s a profound reminder that sometimes perseverance feels like an uphill battle.

What if we could prevent these moments of crisis? Imagine a world where marriages thrive instead of ending in divorce. What if, instead of just reacting to problems, we focused on strengthening the roots of our faith?

The answer lies in “deep work” with Jesus. Just like a wilting plant needs more than a quick watering, our spiritual lives need focused attention. This might involve practices like:

  • Solitude: Finding quiet space to connect with God.
  • Silence: Stilling our minds to hear God’s voice.
  • Fasting: Denying ourselves something to focus on God.
  • Sabbath: Taking a break to rest and recharge in God’s presence.

These aren’t about feeling guilty or missing out. They’re tools to cultivate a deeper relationship with God, a wellspring of strength to draw from during those inevitable moments when you feel like you’re falling.

So, take a deep breath. Remember, Jesus kept going. Find your source of strength, and take that next step, even if it feels like a small one.

Who will walk with you on this journey? Consider a spiritual director or a trusted friend to offer encouragement and support.

Because perseverance isn’t about never falling. It’s about choosing to get back up, again and again.

Reflection Questions for you and your community:

  1. How do you most naturally encounter Jesus?
  2. How are you nurturing your relationship with Jesus?
  3. How are you creating space for people in your community to encounter Jesus?
  4. What challenges or opportunities is your community facing?
  5. What is your vision for the future of your community?

Stay tuned for the next installment, where we’ll delve deeper into practical tips and resources to equip you in leading your community through the remaining weeks of Lent.

Upcoming Webinar

Join me for an informative conversation with Ben Ingebretson of Coram Deo as we discuss coaching and multiplication, on Wednesday, March 20 @ 9:30am PST.  Here is the Zoom link – CLICK HERE.

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Checking In: Are You Getting What You Wanted Out of Lent?

Checking In: Are You Getting What You Wanted Out of Lent?

As we embark on the fifth week of Lent, this blog series aims to equip you in guiding your faith community through this transformative season. Lent offers a powerful opportunity to not only deepen the spiritual journeys of your existing members but also to spark curiosity and a yearning for connection among those yet to embrace Christ.

A Shared Reflection on the Fifth Station (Week 5):

This week, as we contemplate the fifth Station of the Cross – Jesus falling for the first time – we are presented with a poignant reminder: Jesus, fully human, experienced physical limitations and exhaustion. This humbling moment underscores his immense strength and perfect love, for it was these that propelled him to rise and continue his journey.

Let’s use this reflection not just as a spiritual contemplation, but also as a lens to examine our own leadership, ministry, and community. Perhaps we, too, have experienced moments of falling – setbacks, challenges, or feelings of exhaustion. But within these moments lies the opportunity to rise again, fueled by faith and a renewed commitment to serving our community.

Understanding the Seasons of the Soul:

Our spiritual lives, much like the natural world, experience distinct seasons. There are times of consolation, bathed in the warmth of God’s presence and overflowing with joy.  However, these periods of bliss can give way to desolation, a chilling sense of isolation where doubt creeps in and leaves us adrift. Further complicating our path is our natural inclination towards resistance. When God nudges us towards growth, we may find ourselves clinging to familiar routines and patterns.

Finding Strength in Community:

Discerning these spiritual states can feel overwhelming, like navigating a labyrinth in the dark. This is where the beauty of community shines. Lent is not meant to be a solitary trek. Seek out a spiritual friend, a trusted companion who walks alongside you, offering a safe space to share your struggles, joys, and uncertainties. Together, you can shed light on the path ahead, discerning God’s whispers even in the quietest moments.

Reflection Questions for Week 5:

  • Recall a time when compassion helped you during a difficult season.
  • Who in your life needs your compassion right now?
  • How can you actively show more compassion to others this week?

Halfway Check-In: Reflecting on Your Lenten Journey (Week 5):

Take a moment to reflect on your Lent experience so far. Has it met your expectations?  How does it compare to past Lents? What emotions or thoughts have surfaced during your contemplation of the Stations of the Cross? As you look towards the remaining weeks, what do you hope to gain from this sacred time?

Guiding Your Community Through Transformation (Week 6):

The Holy Spirit, for generations, has been the guiding force on our faith journey. Today, we stand on the legacy of the early disciples, who themselves walked a path of transformation. Their wisdom offers a profound framework, a three-fold journey of spiritual awakening, to nurture those seeking to follow Christ:

  • Purgation: This initial phase acts as a crucible of self-discovery. Here, the Holy Spirit illuminates our shortcomings, prompting us to confess and seek forgiveness. This surrender is crucial, for only on cleansed ground can true growth take root.
  • Illumination: Empowered by the Holy Spirit, the scriptures become a radiant guide. Through their pages, Jesus himself draws us closer, revealing the depths of his love and sacrifice. Our understanding of faith expands, and a yearning for deeper connection blossoms.
  • Union: Finally, we arrive at Union, where the transformative power of Christ takes hold. We recognize our complete dependence on him, and a profound sense of oneness takes root. Christ before us, leading the way. Christ beside us, a constant companion. Christ within us, a wellspring of strength and love.

Leading with Renewed Purpose:

While contemporary expressions of faith may vary, this core progression remains the blueprint for authentic discipleship, the very path our spiritual ancestors trod.  By understanding these phases and drawing upon the wisdom of Christian Coaching Essentials, you are empowered to guide your congregation on a transformative Lenten journey. Through this shared experience, faith will be strengthened, connections will deepen, and your community will emerge closer than ever before.

Stay tuned for the next installment, where we’ll delve deeper into practical tips and resources to equip you in leading your community through the remaining weeks of Lent.

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